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in Catholic class I got an interesting subject that my lecturer gave us. It's
about The Five Stages of Grief concluded by a psychologist named Elisabeth
this last class meeting he asked us, "What is the last word you will say
before you die?"
fact, I always thinking about what's the last words I will say in my last
seconds of life, and all I was thinking is to apologize to God and say the
words that Jesus said in the cross.
written in Luke 23:46 Jesus
called out with a loud voice, “Father, into your hands I commit my
he had said this, he breathed his last.
But then I think again and not
sure whether if I will do it or not.
Haha life is such a mystery.
Yesterday, I also got the answer
what I always ask to myself but always forget to find it out. I had listened at
someone story said there's a man which he had ordered his own chest and grave
weeks before he died. It was like he had been ready before his last breath
came. And He died peacefully after he drank his morning coffee. I wondered how
all those things could happen.
And then I wonder how my last
seconds of life's going to happen.
Oh, and here's the 5 stages of Grief
that I heard yesterday. I repost this fromhere.
Mind blowing started~
following stages are for the theme of death and not grief, which is an entirely
different subject matter.
1.Denial — "I feel fine.";
"This can't be happening, not to me."
Denial is usually only a temporary defense for the individual. This feeling is
generally replaced with heightened awareness of possessions and individuals
that will be left behind after death. Denial can be conscious or unconscious
refusal to accept facts, information, or the reality of the situation. Denial
is a defense mechanism and some people can become locked in this stage.
2.Anger — "Why me? It's not
fair!"; "How can this happen to me?"; '"Who is to
Once in the second stage, the individual recognizes that denial cannot
continue. Because of anger, the person is very difficult to care for due to
misplaced feelings of rage and envy. Anger can manifest itself in different
ways. People can be angry with themselves, or with others, and especially those
who are close to them. It is important to remain detached and nonjudgmental
when dealing with a person experiencing anger from grief.
3.Bargaining — "I'll do anything for a
few more years."; "I will give my life savings if..."
The third stage involves the hope that the individual can somehow postpone or
delay death. Usually, the negotiation for an extended life is made with a higher
power in exchange for a reformed lifestyle. Psychologically, the individual is
saying, "I understand I will die, but if I could just do something to buy
more time..." People facing less serious trauma can bargain or seek to
negotiate a compromise. For example "Can we still be friends?.." when
facing a break-up. Bargaining rarely provides a sustainable solution,
especially if it's a matter of life or death. Not much noted, but common,
bargaining can also include guilt, including survivors guilt.
4.Depression — "I'm so sad, why bother
with anything?"; "I'm going to die soon so what's the point?";
"I miss my loved one, why go on?"
During the fourth stage, the dying person begins to understand the certainty of
death. Because of this, the individual may become silent, refuse visitors and
spend much of the time crying and grieving. This process allows the dying
person to disconnect from things of love and affection. It is not recommended
to attempt to cheer up an individual who is in this stage. It is an important
time for grieving that must be processed. Depression could be referred to as
the dress rehearsal for the 'aftermath'. It is a kind of acceptance with
emotional attachment. It's natural to feel sadness, regret, fear, and
uncertainty when going through this stage. Feeling those emotions shows that
the person has begun to accept the situation.
5.Acceptance — "It's going to be
okay."; "I can't fight it, I may as well prepare for it."
In this last stage, individuals begin to come to terms with their mortality, or
that of a loved one, or other tragic event. This stage varies according to the
person's situation. People dying can enter this stage a long time before the
people they leave behind, who must pass through their own individual stages of
dealing with the grief.
originally applied these stages to people suffering from terminal illness. She
later expanded this theoretical model to apply to any form of catastrophic
personal loss (job, income, freedom). Such losses may also include significant
life events such as the death of a loved one, major rejection,
end of a relationship or divorce, drug
addiction, incarceration, the onset of adisease or chronic
illness, an infertility diagnosis, as well as
many tragedies and disasters.
stated before, the Kübler-Ross Model can be used for multiple situations where
people are experiencing a significant loss. The subsections below explain how
the model is applied differently in a few specific situations. These are just
some of the many examples that Kübler-Ross wanted her model to be used for.
Interesting, right? I
wish I could pass the fifth stage later. Amen.
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Tiap episode tuh ya selalu berhasil bikin ketawa ngakak bareng keluarga.
Daaaaaan, kemaren pas nonton, Malam Terakhir Miko tuh ya rasanya ga rela banget mesti udahan.
Sedih banget, dan ceritanya paling absurd kayanya ya.
Akhirnya......Selamat Mas Miko akhirnya dapet cewek, Mas Rian semoga cepet dapet cewek, dan Mas Anca, cepet nikah sama Maimunah dan selamat mengabdi seumur hidup dalam hidup Mas Miko dan Mas Rian, ya! :')
Semoga banyak karya anak bangsa lain yang se-OK dan bahkan lebih oke dari acara ini kedepannya.
Next project, please, Mas Radiiiit~
"Malam minggu gue gagal lagi. Tapi jujur, selama malam minggu-malam minggu ini gue belajar banyak. Gue belajar bahwa terkadang selain harus mendengarkan perkataan orang lain, kita juga harus tau apa yang sebenarnya kita butuh. Dan terkadang kita tidak sehebat yang kita pikir, dan itu gak papa. Gue juga belajar, kita tidak harus tau orang lain butuh kita atau tidak, tapi yang penting, kita ada untuk mereka. Dan selama malam minggu-malam minggu ini, gue belajar bahwa gue gak boleh berhenti berharap. Gue yakin suatu saat nanti pasti ada orang yang terbaik buat gue." - Miko